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Who I Am

14 Sep

The response from my blog last night was overwhelming. I couldn’t have imagined just how many people who have reacted to my post.

I am so full of gratitude for all those who read it and felt that it moved you in some way, big or small.

As I sat and reflected today upon my post from last night, and the positive response to it, something became clear to me. It seems to me that when I write, as I always try to, from a deeply authentic  place, I reach more people.

I truly love to share posts about things that are uplifting, positive, and inspiring as much as possible. Those are all needed. We also need some real honest talks about the stuff that we all wish didn’t exist, the stuff that some of us like to hide.

I wanted to reach out and share what I feel is most important to share.

I haven’t written this in a while so I will repost.


Who I am:

I am a yoga teacher and I don’t weigh ninety pounds. I am a woman and I have curves.

Although I quit smoking 7 months ago, it took me 20 years to quit.

I sometimes yell at my children, loudly yell at my children.

My house is messy more than it is clean.

My car looks like a war zone on the inside.

I haven’t meditated in weeks.

I don’t call people back like I should.

I am at times not a good friend.

I am at times a cranky wife.

I love cheesy pop music. I rock out to it in my car.

I love making connections with people. A simple positive connection can change my whole week around.

If I could I would eat cheese and bread for breakfast lunch and dinner everyday of the week.

Every time I walk into my yoga studio I am terrified to teach, but I do it anyway.

You get my point. I am not perfect and my life is not pretty, but it is interesting. We are all in the same boat. Don’t let people’s Facebook pages fool you. We are no different from the person next to us. We all breathe the same air and we all have blood pumping through our veins.

I promise to keep writing about being real, about being a real mom, a real woman, and a real human in this crazy world. I promise to always be here to remind you that “perfect” doesn’t exist and we are all fighting hard battles.



The Unarguable Truth

16 Apr

I know that I am not the only one to struggle with telling the truth about how I feel. I know I am not alone.

I have thought for years that I am an honest person and always thought I was a truthful person. I am realizing more and more lately that  the idea I had of “truthfulness” is a bit skewed.

I can’t be completely truthful if I am being in-authentic or if I am only kinda sorta telling the truth, but not enough to hurt somebody’s feelings. I am definitely not being honest If I push the truth away because it will cause a painful chain of events. This all equals living in a very dishonest state with myself.

I was so honored to have a conversation on the phone today with the amazing Frank Gjata. I was left feeling inspired and motivated. Frank opened my eyes up to a way of telling the truth that allowed me to be 100% my most authentic self. It would awaken my spirit and allow for there to be no conflict at the same time. I was all ears. This is exactly what I need in my life now.

Here is a great video that explains The Unarguable Truth.

Here is a easy to follow definition

The Basic Shift:  Telling the Unarguable Truth
The unarguable truth is a truth that does not produce argument.  It is an attitude as much as a technique.  A good starting place is describing your personal experience as literally as possible.  Start with physical sensations (“my palms are sweaty”), then go to core emotions (“I am feeling scared/sad/angry/joyful/sexy”) and finally acknowledge thoughts (“I am thinking that you don’t like me.”).

I am committed to learning to communicate in this new way. I am learning how to speak from what is happening inside of me. To speak from my heart. To be authentic.

There are no accidents in life. This truth concept is a big one for me at the present moment. I have a speech to do for Teacher Training and I chose to do mine on the subject of Truthfulness.

Clearly there is something inside of me that is dying to come out. I have finally come to a crossroads in my life where the time has come for me to be truly authentic. I can no longer live any other way.

I was told this weekend by somebody that I love very much that, “I am not expressed, that the light and joy inside of me needs to come out not just sometimes but all the time.” After seeing the amazing Wayne Dyer this weekend it really struck a chord inside of me.

Wayne said something this weekend that I take very seriously. He said the following:


I don’t plan on it. So I shall start with truthfulness. This will be the first step in letting my music out.

3 words for today


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